Archive | July 2014

Practical Dating Tips for Smart Women

199Stop dating for a while
If you are no longer enjoying the dating process, don’t force yourself to date.

Control your dating destiny
Getting dismal results tends to occur when you let your dating life happen to you.

Dating Advice #3: Embrace your single status
If you hate being single, you may come across as too eager and desperate, which scares good men away.

Media and the Myth of Infidelity
Don’t compare yourself to others.
Don’t be yourself.If being yourself hasn’t gotten you asked out on subsequent dates or captured a man’s heart.

Set the pace and standards
If you’re tired of meeting men who try to rush you into intimacy, bring back the genteel days of being wooed.

Cut ties early on
If you’re looking for a long-term commitment and the guy you like says he isn’t looking for anything serious, believe him.

Use the 80/20 rule
Don’t fall prey to a man who says what you want to hear, then behaves and acts differently.

Looking for Love and Meeting Online

Many successfully romantic couples, whether married now or not, met through an online singles site They were looking for love and found relationship success through the many steps involved in moving from being strangers looking for love and viewing each other’s online profile to eventually deciding to join together as a loving couple.

The question is, how did they do it? How did they know what to look for? How did they know what steps to take to assure that they weren’t fooling themselves, ending up disappointed and lonely again?

To assure that you’ve found your perfect love partner when meeting online, follow these romantic ideas for couples in love:

*** Face into your conflicts so that you can trust your mutual ability to resolve your differences in ways that benefit each of you and your relationship
*** Remain curious about each other, that way you never get bored and real romance is in any moment you connect

*** Generously express your appreciation, your care, your affection, your joy in knowing the one you love, that way you avoid taking each other for granted. And you move your relationship deeper and deeper into the shared heart space that will keep you joyously and romantically together forever.

While these tips for creating real romance apply to meeting online or off, they aren’t what most people think about when they are looking for love online and going forward in the process of seeing what kind of future is possible.

Practice the emotional skills needed to create a healthy, happy marriage while you are dating and that will insure you’ll meet the right kinds of people and eventually find the one that’s right for you.

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How To Date Smart For Lasting Love

The best time to keep dating is when you find yourself falling in love with one man. Seem like a contradiction? It’s not when you learn the rules for getting the love you want.

Say you think you’ve found “the one”. You’re attracted to him, you enjoy each other’s company, you’re compatible, and you even like each other’s quirks. You should pull the plug on your profile and stop communicating with other men, right? Wrong.

Devoting all your time and attention to any one man before he asks for the commitment you want can actually slow the process down. This is because men approach commitment differently than we do. It’s easy for us to imagine the wedding dress and to scribble his last name next to yoursimagine the benefits of a relationship. But men normally take a bit of time to come to a conclusion about where a relationship is headed. Remember, he has to “fall” in love with you.

And the best way to help him do that – and make sure you take the time YOU need to make a sound decision about him – is to keep dating other men. When a man can’t take you for granted because he sees you’re keeping busy and not putting all your hopes in him, it motivates him to move closer to you. It creates the need for him to “win” you all to himself. That’s when he’ll ask you for commitment – when he can’t stand the thought of you being with anyone else.
So how do you keep dating other men while keeping your sanity? The good news is that with eHarmony you’re presented with a bunch of matches – so get the most out of your subscription by meeting as many of your matches as you can. Then just follow my two rules: keep your options open and keep the focus on you.

Keeping Your Options Open
By dating I mean continue to flirt with men and accept invitations to meet for coffee or have dinner.

Doing this turns dating into a fun, worthwhile experience that lets you figure out what kind of partner you’re looking for. Every man you meet is a gift that allows you to learn about yourself and discover what you want – and don’t want – out of a relationship.

The other bonus to this approach is that your Mr. Right might actually look nothing like you had imagined. By not closing yourself off prematurely to dating, you allow the partner that’s truly right for you to find you.

Keeping The Focus on You
By taking the focus off any one man, you accomplish two things. First, when a man realizes that you haven’t made him the center of your world, it keeps him motivated to court you and win you over. If a man senses that you are utterly devoted to him before he has asked you for a commitment, it makes you actually appear less attractive to him. Men fall in love by giving to you, and he can’t do this if you haven’t created the space for him to do so – so give him the space!

The second reason you want to keep dating is that it changes your vibe and makes you even more attractive.

By focusing on yourself and doing the things that make you feel warm and romantic and wonderful inside, you become infinitely more desirable. This is what I call “dating yourself.” It means you treat yourself to the things you love. You buy yourself things that make you feel beautiful.